The Power of the Tongue

By Chris Widener

There is an old proverb with a lot of wisdom. It says, “The tongue has the power of life and death, and whoever loves it will eat its fruit.” It is so true. What we say has the ability to create situations, emotions, and thoughts in others. A kind word helps people, negative words hurt – sometimes for a very long time. Most of the time we think of this concept in relation to how we treat others and that is good. In fact, I wrote an article in the last month or so called “The Power of Praising People.” If you missed it, you can get it at the website. But here I want to talk about this concept in relation to ourselves. How does what we say affect us? Tremendously. There is a simple principle here. Only say things that will create in you positive emotions, thoughts, feelings, and ultimately, actions. Let me give you a good example. We do not allow the words “I can’t” in our house. Why? Because we CAN! The very minimum is “I’ll try.” We ask our kids to say “I’ll try.” If we allow our kids, or ourselves, to fall into the trap of saying “I can’t,” guess what? We won’t! And that’s not good, is it? Do you tell yourself negative thoughts during the day? Most of us can fall into that temptation, can’t we? I was working the other day and I was brewing over something bad that had happened and I was just getting bent out of shape. So I stopped, realized I had the power to choose what I was saying to myself and began to think about and tell myself good things. And my day changed for the better. Have you ever been in your backswing on the golf course and said to yourself, “I am going to shank this one.” What happens? You shank it. This actually happens to me. So what do I do? I stop my backswing, reset myself, and tell myself I am going to hit it straight down the fairway. What happens? About half the time I hit it straight, the other half, I shank it, but increasing your ability is a future article! At the very least I increase my chances of performing better. Bad thoughts almost guarantee my failure, while good thoughts increase my chances for success dramatically.

A salesman may see someone walk through his door and say to himself, “I’m not going to be able to make this sale.” I can’t. I won’t. Some of us aren’t even aware that we talk negatively to ourselves. Take some time today to think about what you say to yourself. Maybe ask a close friend if you have this habit. If you find yourself doing this, it is time to change! Now, don’t get me wrong. Self-talk is not a substitute for effort and ability, but it is a strong helping factor. Find some simple phrases that will help you get through the day with more success. Whatever your situation or work is, I am sure there are specific things you can say that will build you up and stick you on the road to success! The words that you use and the conversations you have with yourself create things in you. They can create positive things or negative things. It is our choice. The tongue has the power of life and death. This is why it is so important to be diligent in using the power of the tongue to create a positive force in our lives. Remember, your tongue has power. Use it! Chris Widener is a popular speaker and writer as well as the President of Made for Success and Extraordinary Leaders, two companies helping individuals and
organizations turn their potential into performance, succeed in every area of their lives and achieve their dreams.

CHANGE YOUR DESTINY

By Alfredo Karras
Wisdom to help you know how to be in this world

Every person sets his or her destiny. This I am sure about. Nothing happens by chance. You make a plan and decide to make it happen. Your mind is a powerful magnet that will attract to you the things you identify yourself with. If you have sad thoughts, you will attract tragedies. If you are a good man, you will attract the company of good people. The stronger your will, the clearer and more defined your goals will be and the greater the ‘coincidences’ that will appear in front of you, helping you get where you wish – Heaven or hell. You decide what you want. If a man writes perfectly, but does not know a lot about calculations, is he handicapped compared to an eminent mathematician? And the mathematician is handicapped compared to the scribbler? Is a swordsman handicapped because he cannot sing? Is a man handicapped for not having wings to fly or gills to breathe under water? We are responsible for each action, each word, each thought. Nobody can escape from this responsibility. Our words, deeds and thoughts have an effect and that effect may be short-term or longterm but be sure, there are consequences and we must deal with those consequences.Be good. But do not be good only to those who please you; be good to everyone who exists. This is for your own welfare. If you have bad feelings in your heart, you are vulnerable to evil and suffering. But, if there are only good things in your heart, the bad things that people wish you or put in your path will merely bounce off such a wall of good and will reflect back to the one who wished it to you. Your only protection from what is evil is being good. If we know why we are suffering it is easier to bear the suffering. But if you don’t know the reason you can only count on one thing to withstand the suffering: self-strength. It may be more difficult, but this way your spirit gets stronger, becomes totally serene and dominates all the passions. You learn the lessons that the suffering has to teach. It is more difficult, but it is better not to know the reason. Superior are those who, with best intentions, serve their brothers.Inferior are those who, by the power of the sword and the word, make others serve them. Happier and blessed is the one who gives, not the one who receives. Real power is not being tied to the things of this world. Thirst for the things of this world is insatiable and turns into agony because it can never be satisfied. The happiness that comes from wealth and disposing of lives is dull and short-lived; it is frequently threatened by usurpers, betrayers, diseases and finally death. But the person who knows that power is made of light and does not wish to be anything but life in all its prime, finds all the wealth in existence: love, friendship and peace. And so that person is happy, because not even death can take these things from him. And this is the greatest power one can wish. Instead of surrounding yourself with two hundred smarmy people, surround yourself with two friends who appreciate you for who you are, independently of what you own. Two hundred smarmy people will abandon you when you most need them, but two friends will be your legitimate army. Can’t you see that the dream that sprouts in your hearts is your mission on Earth? Live. Evolve. Don’t be afraid of learning. Many of you have got dreams, but do not have the courage to follow them.

Brazilian author Alfredo Karras’s first novel ‘Be’ has been published by Smink Works Books. Imagine if you knew how to change your destiny. Now you can. Following the orders of his King, knight
Henrique sets out to ruin many lives and conquer riches, wielding lies and violence to achieve his aims. But these plans eventually fall apart and this cruel knight is forced to face the truths of life. And so his powerful journey begins. Important revelations about human existence see Henrique embark on a path where he shares his knowledge about how to ‘be’ in this world.

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What is the New Jerusalem?

What is the New Jerusalem?

CHANGE YOUR THOUGHTS, CHANGE YOUR RESULTS

Did you know that the quality of your life is dependent on the quality of your thoughts?
Your thoughts can work for you or against you. The mind has the ability to do either.

You know you need to change how you think or your mind will continue doing what it

thinks it should. Old patterns need to be broken and new ones established.

Isn't it really time to:

• Increase your choices through effective new behaviours and habits


• Stop recycling obsessive thoughts


• Overcome social anxiety


• Raise your self esteem


• Take charge of your fears


• Reawaken your creativity


• Clarify and accomplish your goals

Apart from the logical mind, as a spiritual being, you have the power within you to

create the life you want to live. Therefore, it rests solely with you to improve your present circumstances whatever they may be.

You must understand that you are the one who has created your present situation and that

you have complete control over whatever changes you want to see in your life. Bringing

about the outcomes you desire requires relatively little effort.

Manifesting your desired outcomes is governed by the immutable Law of the Universe --

The Law of Cause and Effect. Your thoughts are the "cause" and what is materialized

on the physical plane is the "effect." You have no control over the effect; however, you

can influence the cause.

Each event that you see unfolding in your life results from your thoughts, whether

conscious or unconscious. Therefore, by controlling what you think about, you have the

ability to bring about what you want to see in physical form.

The Law of Cause and Effect can never fail: “you reap (actualize) what you sow (think

about),” regardless of whether you are conscious of the latter or not. Famed psychologist

Carl Jung said, “Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and

you will call it fate.” You must, therefore, endeavour to be aware of your thoughts as

much as possible at all times.

As the thinker of your thoughts, you are also the creator of your circumstances. A thought

that creates an impression on your subconscious mind is ultimately manifested in your

material world. The Universe cannot help to bring about outcomes that are contrary to the

thoughts you’re thinking.

Ill health, lack, poor relationships and similar negatives that you do not want in your life

are the effect produced by your thoughts. Focusing on them to bring about change is

futile. It will only create more of the same in your life.

ARE YOU MOTIVATED?

Are you motivated to get motivated? Too often, we place emphasis on material things - money or the stuff it buys us - as the root of our motivations. Instead, focus on achievements, goals, personal satisfaction to spur motivation.


How to Motivate Yourself and Stay Motivated

What motivates us to do the things that we do? Why do we think and behave as we do? What influences people to do what they do?

Is all because of that one word MONEY, which drives us to do what we do? I think not.

The word "motivation" means different things to different people. One thing for sure is that you can't buy a jar of it: it has to come from within yourself. A person's brain needs constant motivational input just as muscles need exercise, engines need petrol and plants need water.

I used to think that motivation was a slick American fad and that it wasn't for me. After all, I was very motivated already!

People are the product of their thoughts and the aim of motivational material is to improve the quality of your thoughts. Motivation is nothing more than encouragement and we all perform better for it. Friends of mine say that I am a good motivator, because I simply encourage others.

"We become what we think about all day long."

- Emerson

"Most people think only what everybody else is doing."

- Earl Nightingale

The road to achievement starts with a goal. Implant that goal in your mind and think about it all day long. I am doing that with this manuscript and my goal is to have it published and be an author. I think I have taken the right action steps so far, so that I eventually reach my target. Pay the price by making sacrifices. Take small steps towards your goal every day, instead of occasional bursts of activity.

The principal difference between the average person and the one who is highly successful seems to be in the degree of his or her personal motivation. Motivation is the hidden power in the successful person's arsenal and is the key ingredient for success. Most people, I believe are motivated or have the potential if they are aroused and interested in the activity.

However, one thing is for sure: It is not something someone else can give you. It must be self-generated from within; it is not external "RA RA" hype. In other words, motivation is an inner energy, rather than a fire lit by others.

Strong motivation also stems from a deep rooted belief in what

you are trying to do; it is strongest when it comes from your inner values. This creates a feeling of ENTHUSIASM which is essential in order to remain motivated. Look at the zeal of a missionary or a Jehovah's Witness. The best salesmen are those who get very excited about and have total faith in their products. They sell with a firm conviction that their product is the best available.



What are the main sources of motivation?

What influences people to do as they do? There are many diverse influences. It is difficult to pin-point which one is most important, but some factors are as follows: different cultures, social environment and biological influences (eg. hunger, thirst) in work and in play. Other influences are our thoughts, our perceptions. Everyone is different and unique, so there are great individual differences in our drives.

There are two main sources of motivation: What will happen if you do? What will happen if you don't? For example, your doctor advises you to give up smoking. If you do, you will feel better and live longer; if you don't your health is going to deteriorate. Both sources (and implications) are equally powerful.

There is a strong correlation between motivation and achievement. Highly motivated people are nearly always achievers. Thrill seekers like sky-divers and stuntmen often need to do life threatening activities to keep them motivated. Danger gives them pleasure and keeps them motivated.

Why do we work? Is it just for money or is money merely a short-term issue? I am personally not motivated by money. I prefer interesting and exciting work that offers a challenge and the opportunity for personal growth. Others may feel the need for affiliation or to contribute to society. In the following chapter there is an exercise on this.

Understanding motivation gives us the power to accept our behavior when we have strange reactions. It can also enable us to change what we think and do if we want to improve our behavior or performance. So when going for a job it is critical to understand your motivations. What do you really want and expect from it?

What do others expect of you? Our behavior is directly affected by our needs. If you are clear about the answers you will be happiest.

Theories of motivation:

There are three main theories of motivation:

1. Desire for achievement.

2. Desire for power.

3. Desire for affiliation or a sense of belonging.

These theories are linked to the concept of extrinsic and intrinsic rewards. Extrinsic motivation comes from outside, for example, the prospect of fame, recognition, monetary rewards, gaining power, respect or social approval/belonging ( =sense of affiliation). With intrinsic rewards, the task or situation is in itself motivating or compelling. Motivation is often defined in terms of our goals. Marie says that contributing to society by daring to be different is what motivates me - strange! I think that I get bored easily without a challenge. Enough about "little old me"!

There are six main steps or elements in the process of motivation.

1. Desire: First, to be motivated you must have an intense burning desire to get where or what you want.

2. Decision: You must make a conscious decision on what to aim for.

3. Determination: to climb mountains so that absolutely nothing will stop you. You need to be able to repeat the habits which are necessary to get there.

4. Discipline: It is critical to pay the price whether you like it or not. Motivation is strongest when it is the internalization of your goals and dreams, in other words, when you are headed on a clear path in your life's direction.

5. Focus

6. Direction

Certain people have the constant challenge to reach and sustain an optimum level of motivation which overcomes problems and brings results. If there is no challenge in what you are doing, motivation will soon wither and die.

Always remember: The buck starts - and stops - with you.

Self knowledge is the key to self-motivation: - why do we behave as we do? - what makes us tick?

Also critical for motivation is the image or snapshot you have of yourself. This is based on your inner belief in yourself as well as your attitude and views of your strengths and weaknesses. If you believe in yourself and expect success, you will act confidently and be highly motivated.

Key Points of this lesson:

• We must define success for ourselves.

• Be aware of our own strengths and weaknesses.

• Your personal solutions lie within you.

• To sustain motivation, do better than in the past.

• Motivation often comes from a challenge.

• It is necessary at times to make a positive out of a negative.

• The most important thing for an achievement-orientated person is to have a clear goal.

What comes first? The chicken or the egg? Motivation or action? The answer surprisingly is Action. First, we have to prime the pump and the way is through action. People who tend to procrastinate confuse motivation and action.